Month: August 2005

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    Gay men fight over custody of quads




    Knight Ridder Newspapers


    LEXINGTON, Ky. — Two gay men who parented quadruplets and then a fifth child with a surrogate mother have been fighting for the quads’ custody more than a year, court records reveal.


    Moreover, Michael Meehan, the 3-year-olds’ biological father, alleges in court documents that the couple ended their same-sex-partner relationship two months before the quad babies were born in 2002. However, Meehan said, they continued to share expenses and purchased and shared a home and business.


    Also, Meehan alleges that Thomas Dysarz started dating someone else in the summer of 2003 and brought the man to live with the babies and Meehan.


    Dysarz had been seeking custody and time-sharing of the quadruplets. Meehan, a lawyer, is not seeking visitation with the fifth child, who is Dysarz’s 19-month-old biological son.


    The Kentucky Court of Appeals on Thursday dismissed Dysarz’s appeal of a Fayette Circuit Court decision that said he did not qualify as a “person acting as a parent” under Kentucky law and had no standing to bring a custody action.


    Court of Appeals records made public parts of the court case, which had been sealed since it was filed by Dysarz in June 2004.


    Meehan has custody of his biological children — the three boys and one girl born to Meehan and surrogate mother Brooke Verity on July 26, 2002.


    Dysarz said that Meehan had moved to Atlanta. Meehan could not be reached for comment.






    To reach Valarie Honeycutt Spears, send e-mail to vhoneycutt@herald-leader.com .

  • IF LOVE ISN'T ALL THAT, WHY DOES IT MEAN SO MUCH TO ME?


    //FRIDAY//


    - Woke up around 8ish I think or maybe even sooner. I can't seem to sleep well these days.
    + Get a text message from Michael, hoping that I have a good day
    + Chat with some guys on my faceless profile on Manhunt.net. I get more responses without a picture than with.
    + Chat with Ada a little bit, as well as some other people.
    - Justin sends me a link to Matt's Myspace.com profile, labeled UH OH! I thought it was like a joke like link or something... like he usually sends.
    - Matt's happy with his ex, Carlos. On that note, Corby is happy with Sid. Lastly, Justin his happy with (I don't remember his boyfriends name).
    - I feel in the dumps for hearing about it and sort of try to change the subject with Justin, but it doesn't work.
    + Go and get ready for work. Singing 'The Diary of Alicia Keys.'
    - Missed the first bus to be on time to work. Get the next bus and late for work.
    + Get trained at the register.
    - I am really nervous for the first couple customers
    - Missed my first 15 minute break, almost miss lunch.
    + Hoagie from Fry's for dinner.
    + Boring, doing some register, then walking the floor.
    + Text JP... listen to Jack Johnson.
    + Get a ride home from JP.
    + Talk to KELLY (hehe), I never called him that when he was here. Ewh, I think I caught something, like I miss you.
    - Back to the empty apartment. I just sit there crying. Ugh.
    + Call from Ada, in the middle of my crying session
    + Some drinking at Rico's and Pipper's, probably one of the last times. Or the last time... Guest appearances by the Hurd Machine and Sarah (who knows where Wilberforce, OH is now.)
    + Watch spots of Zoolander. Fall a sleep a bit and go home.
    - Don't want to fall asleep on the couch again.
    + Quiet ride home...
    - So I am a little gone and chatting with people, just poring out all the emotion.. venting worse than an AC on a summer day.
    +/- Found out somethings that made me jealous, but I am still happy. It just really bothered me.
    - Try falling asleep with Sara Evans on repeat but the assholes upstairs keep banging on my ceiling. I play music or a movie before I go to bed. I don't see the difference. So I just feel asleep with banging and Sara Evans singing.

  • DARKNESS IS MY ENEMY
    (written by: P.A. Jervis, Jr.)


    Darkness has fallen, darkness has covered me
    It falls upon me and sucks my energy dry
    Taking everything, everything--taking the best of me.


    The darkness has fallen, the darkness is after me
    It takes every effort to enter my life and take me under
    Taking me to a level so low that I cry tears for no reason


    The darkness has covered me, the darkness has no heart
    It fills me up with false hopes and confuses me with lies and sin
    Taking the love that I thought I felt


    Darkness is my enemy, but it's taking my life
    It's ruling it's control, I try to fight it.. sometime winning the battle
    Taking all control, darkness has won the war.


    Darkness is my enemy.

  • Gay-Friendly God Smites Boy Scouts



    Instead of a feel-good event where boys revel in being boys, this year's annual Boy Scouts of America National Jamboree faced storms, deaths, electrocutions, horrors of biblical proportion, and a visit from President Bush.

    The nightmare in Falls Church, VA has some wondering just what went wrong. Throughout history, wholesome, God-fearing groups have been favored with good weather during important annual festivities designed to showcase their right-mindedness.

    But the Jamboree had deteriorated to such a state that President Bush playfully quipped, "You'd be better off in Iraq than here. I know where you can sign up!"

    Others agreed. "Just look at the Jonestown massacre, they had excellent weather," grumbled one scoutmaster whose legs had broken after a giant replica merit badge for knot tying blew over on him during a thunderstorm. "They had perfect weather for their special day, and darn it, we deserve the same!"

    Such was the consensus throughout the Jamboree, following an array of mishaps that called into question not only the preparedness of the Boy Scouts but also their closeness with God. Not only had the group been caught without body bags - let alone proper funeral supplies - they also seemed to be caught off guard with each successive disaster.

    As scouts and their leaders attempt to heal from the physical and emotional wounds inflicted on them, some have begun suspecting God of "going gay."

    "How else can you explain it?" demanded Jared Pabulum, a scout leader form Provo Utah. "It's as though we drove His people from our midst and now He's smiting us." (The Boy Scouts went to the Supreme Court to win the right to expel gay scouts.)

    Adding credence to the otherwise ludicrous speculation is the fact that God has been frequenting His local YMCA, where He's been spotted "working out" up to three times a week despite having a full Nautilus-brand home exercise system at home. "God merely enjoys the camaraderie and support of working out at the Y," explained spokesperson Ramone Bain. "There's nothing gay about that."

    Bain, however, could not explain Will and Grace's 15 Emmy award nominations

  • KICK ME WHEN I AM DOWN AND EXPECT THE BEST OUT OF ME.


    + got a good nights rest.. it was great.
    - woke up at around 945ish and realized that the baker hasn't called or anything to help her move.
    - she doesn't want to move any more and I can't really help her because I have to work.
    + get steve to go over and help her pack and moved for today.
    - the baker decides that she doesn't want his help and she won't move today
    +/- go to work and realize that a truck load came in this morning and need to have it done by tomorrow.
    +/- get asked to work over time tonight until about midnight and tomorrow/today, when it's supposed to be my day off.
    + work .. work .. work, but I enjoy it.smiling, greeting people.
    + eric is hilarious!
    - no call from jp, so I guess they didn't do anything tonight.. or they just didn't call me. it's cool
    + after working 12 hours and chatting with some people. i am off to bed.

  • LEARNING TO BE ME ALL OVER AGAIN
    (written by P.A. Jervis, Jr.)


    Broken, bruised and losing control
    Losing control of my life, I can't hold on
    I was holding on to the image that was me, thinking that's the way that I was going to be forever

    Forever, is what you said to me
    Forever in loneliness is what you leave me
    Last night it hit me when I kept seeing the couples
    The couples doing their kissing, their cuddling and sweet somethings
    I realized that you fucked up my life and that I've got to learn to move on
    I've got learn to develop this new me that can filter the guys like you out of my life


    Once I started to see the cuddling and kissing .. at first I got jealous and wished that someone was beside me so
    That I could enjoy what they were enjoying.. the giggling, the laughing, the companionship.. the possiblity of love
    Then I realized that I can make it on my own, I just have to try to be single for awhile and wait
    I am not in any rush to get my heart broken again, like I have three times over in the past few months
    I'm learning how to be me all over again, to live.. to learn.. to love another way other than romantically.


    Broken, bruised and trying to gain self control
    And learn who I am again before I move on to finding love and learn who that person is

  • Initiative would ban same-sex marriage


    Measure could end insurance benefits for unmarried couples


     by Grayson Steinberg
     published on Tuesday, August 2, 2005


    A proposed initiative would ban same-sex marriages in Arizona.

    The Protect Marriage Arizona coalition has put forward a measure that would constitutionally define marriage as a union between one man and one woman. The amendment also would abolish the domestic partnership as a legal status.

    Peter Gentala, legal counsel at the Center for Arizona Policy, one of the amendment's supporters, said the coalition is currently collecting signatures. The organization must submit 183,917 valid signatures by July 2006 in order to get the initiative on the November ballot.

    This move follows the passage of similar amendments in 11 states during the 2004 presidential election.

    Marriage already is defined as a heterosexual union in Arizona through the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act. Gentala said he feels this amendment is necessary to keep marriage from being reinterpreted through court rulings, which was the case with a ruling legalizing same-sex marriage in Massachusetts in 2004. Voters can "proactively" change their constitution and, therefore, protect the definition of marriage so it couldn't be judicially altered, he said.

    But Amy Kobeta, the director of public affairs at the Arizona Human Rights Fund, said the amendment was "unnecessary" and "unfair" because current Arizona law already prohibited recognition of same-sex marriages. She said she believes this initiative would alter the constitution to limit the rights of individuals who had done nothing to deserve such discrimination.

    The Arizona Human Rights Fund is part of the Arizona Together coalition leading the campaign against the amendment.

    "It's a sacred document," Kobeta said. "To be playing political football with it is just a shame."

    Gentala said traditional marriage should be upheld because it keeps couples in committed relationships and provides a secure environment under which children can be raised. Kids raised in same-sex households would "operate under a significant disadvantage," lacking a distinct mother or father.

    "The state should never set out to promote a family situation where children are raised without a mother or a father," Gentala said.

    But Kobeta disagreed, saying that children growing up in gay and lesbian households could still have loving parents, regardless of their genders. Studies have shown that children raised in same-sex families have become just as "well-adjusted," as any other children in adulthood, she said.

    She added that she believes there is no "logical reason" why marriage should be limited only to heterosexual couples.

    "Marriage is a wonderful thing." Kobeta said. "Why wouldn't we want to expand it to include more people?"

    Kobeta also said the amendment would affect straight couples as well, by denying vital state-funded medical insurance to about 500 families in the cities of Tempe, Scottsdale, Phoenix and Tucson.

    "There's no record of how many kids would be impacted by losing those health care benefits," Kobeta added.

    But Gentala said this amendment would only prevent government agencies from offering domestic partnership health benefits. Individuals could still name their partners as beneficiaries in their wills, for example, or give them the right to make medical decisions in the event of an emergency.

    The few employees who stand to lose medical coverage could still receive it through partners working at private businesses, he said.

    "A private company can offer any type of benefit package and this amendment won't do anything about that," Gentala said.

    Kobeta said that if the proposed amendment passed, businesses could be discouraged from coming to Arizona because they couldn't offer the best possible benefits packages for their workers. Potential employees could also be dissuaded from working at firms that couldn't offer desired medical coverage, she said, doing a great "disservice" to Arizona and its economy.

    Valerie Hernandez, human resources manager for the city of Tempe, said that she could not comment on the proposed constitutional amendment, saying that could be interpreted as the city taking a position on the issue.

    Hernandez did note Tempe has offered health insurance to all eligible employees and their partners since 2000. While Arizona law does not require municipal governments to do this, she said, the city does not make distinctions between different groups of people based on their legal status when providing medical coverage.

    Gentala said he was optimistic about the amendment's support, noting that in other states, similar measures have passed with an average 70 percent of the votes.

    "It's ... probably been the most successful political movement in recent times," he said.

    Reach the reporter at grayson.steinberg@asu.edu.